Six years ago, Cami and I had been married for abut a year and a half, Ben was six months old. A few weeks before, Cami had gone to see the Optometrist to get fitted for some new glasses, and for some reason had been gone for nearly four hours (the Eye Doc was literally a block away). I tried calling several times, but there was no answer. To say that I was nervous would be an understatement. And those who know me best will also know it was because I hate being late.
A few minutes before my drop dead leaving time, Cami walked into the house. Because of the dilation she couldn’t see her phone to answer it or to text me. Okay. There’s more…
The reason she had been late is she had been sent for an emergency MRI. On her brain. On which there was a rather larger tumor.
I think that my heart stopped for a moment. I know that I didn’t go to work that day. Several trips to UCSF later, just after New Years Day
2011, Cami went into surgery while I waited with my parents, my oldest daughter and two of Cami’s best friends. For hours. Twelve to be exact. Dad and I watched the Bowl Game with Stanford’s Andrew Luck proving that he would be the 1st Round Pick. I didn’t pay as much attention to the game as I did to my phone and the information desk. Eventually even that closed, there was still no word. Read the rest of this entry
The world is certainly changing, and with it change the standards that we live by as a society. What was once taboo, is now allowed. What was once unspoken except in private is now open for any and all to not only hear, but comment upon.
But at the same time, the change has left behind some behind or conversely, some far out ahead. I’m not actually sure.
I have a belief that judging the morals and ethics of any given society throughout history without actually having been a part of that society is always going to be incorrect. For example, many people today judge the framers as racist and misogynistic, without ever having read their writings or knowing anything about the society of their day.
The simple truth is that people behave the same throughout history regardless of whether or not the societal vales and ethics around them change or not. People still behave the same, particularly sexually without regard to whether or not a society condemns or accepts the behavior.
So when we come to today’s values, morals and ethics about sexual behaviors, how should the sexual behavior of a candidate outside the bounds of the campaign be treated by the electorate – who by the way behave in the same manner? If a candidate is found to have certain behaviors or activities that are not illegal but might offend a puritan interest, should that candidate be shamed into quitting or voted against because of those activities which have nothing to do with the actual campaign?
And, at the end of the day, which is the bigger ethical issue? The candidates behavior OR the use of information – however obtained and that is not confirmed – about a candidates private and not illegal behavior to smear and attack said candidate?
And yet in our society, which will be treated as the bigger sin?
The City of Modesto has – at least for the moment – decided to delay the giving of nearly $1 Million to a not-for-profit that it had a significant role in creating to “teach residents to organize and solve their problems while working with the City.” But the bigger problems with this process remain.
And in Turlock, another QUANGO setup has resulted in the Mayor and some Council members receiving campaign cash from an individual who now seeks to gain their official stamp of approval for a for-profit takeover of the Turlock Certified Farmers Market.
Both processes remind us that even City Governments have to be 100% transparent in what they are doing, lest they find themselves trying to explain why they did not follow the processes which – even had the predetermined the outcomes – would have made the results at least look like they were trying to look like they were doing things the right way instead of just more of the same old “jobs for the boys” approach to government in exchange for money and influence.